The Couples Collective

Deficient communication is the #1 reason that couples seek therapy. The Couples Collective works with each partner to identify barriers to effective communication in a relationship and to provide skills that will deepen each partner’s understanding of each other.

Common barriers to communication include:

• Misunderstandings

• Defensiveness

• Emotional dysregulation

• Lack of validation

• Deficient active listening skills

• Stonewalling

• Stress

We help couples learn to:

• Express needs and feelings without blame or criticism

• Manage conflict in a constructive, non-damaging way

• Listen to each other with empathy

• Develop a shared vocabulary to discuss sensitive topics

• Gain insight into their communication styles and how to adapt them for more meaningful conversations.

• Break negative communication patterns that create frustration or emotional distance.

• Build mutual respect and trust through honest, open dialogue.

Ultimately, couples who improve their communication skills can experience a deeper emotional connection, better problem-solving, and greater satisfaction in their relationship.

Strong relationships are built on a couple’s ability to be relational, rather than transactional or conditional, with one another.

The Couples Collective provides a supportive environment to improve relational skills, helping partners navigate challenges and strengthen their bond. We teach couples valuable tools to resolve conflict, deepen emotional intimacy, and better understand each other’s needs.

A relational approach emphasizes:

• Basic and mutual respect of one another

• Behaving in ways that emphasize the wellness of the relationship

• Emotional safety

• Interdependence and collaboration

At The Couples Collective, a primary aim of our work is to help partners gain insight into how their familial and personal histories impact their relational functioning and approach to their partner.

Furthermore, partners will learn skills to increase their insight into their partner through curiosity, validation, and empathic responsiveness.

Some research suggests that 60-70% of the conflict that couples face is considered to be “perpetual” or “gridlocked,” meaning the conflict is recurring and without solution.

When couples encounter these perpetual or gridlocked points of conflict, the only way to move through them is with effective communication and relationalism.

At The Couples Collective, we work to identify these perpetual conflict patterns and identify strategies to help partners move through these with more finesse and with less disruption.

In order to improve a relationship, each partner needs to hear from the other what they could be doing differently. We work to frame these requests in positive terms (i.e., what your partner needs more of), rather than in negative terms (i.e., what your partner does not want from you). We find that articulating needs in this way gives more clarity and positive results.

Learning to manage symptoms of emotional flooding is crucial for increasing articulation effectively. Within sessions at The Couples Collective , partners will specific learn skills that work for them to increase regulation and improve coping in the face of emotional overwhelm. This will set the stage to allow for more effective conflict resolution and expression of needs.

Finally, couples will learn strategies for active listening and structuring tough conversations to help them hear one another and meet needs more effectively.

Many couples seek assistance when faced with life stressors and transitions.

Examples of stressors and transitions that couples commonly seek treatment for:

• Cohabitation

• Engagement and marriage

• Fertility, pregnancy, and postpartum challenges

• Parenting differences

• Changes in jobs or financial strain

• Relocation

• Caring for family members and experiences of grief

Infidelity and betrayal, of any kind, are common reasons that couples seek therapeutic assistance. Couples navigating the impacts of infidelities and betrayals present to therapy at many points in the process.

Whether you are processing the initial discovery of an infidelity or betrayal, are trying to repair, or are questioning how to move forward at all, The Couples Collective strives to meet every couple and partner where they are at.

Some couples present to therapy to assist with the amicable separation process. These partners have typically already decided that they no longer would like to continue their relationship and need help formulating a separation in a healthy way.

Many couples preemptively seek counseling as a way of highlighting and capitalizing on their strengths and learning skills to maintain a solid relationship.

Some couples early in their relationship want to learn more about one another and about themselves and doing so through a therapeutic process can be rewarding.